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It's been a while, hasn't it? Over a year, according to the date of my last post. I completely forgot all about having a blog. It's been one hell of a year and I don't much want to go into the details but it's safe to say it was utterly terrible but we've come out of the other side mostly stronger.

Last night, I came online for the first time this year to over 900 emails. It's taken me hours to sort through them all but among them were Dreamwidth and Livejournal activity. Which led to passwords being reset but here I am. I need to do some general housekeeping ad since I have very little planned for my Sunday I suspect that will be how I spend my day.

I don't even know if there is anyone around to be reading this but if there is... How are you? What have you been up to? Tell me what's going on in your lives
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I forget sometimes how much I enjoy a little peace and quiet. Having the house to myself and being able to completely switch off. I don't have to be anyone other than myself. I don't have to be mommmy, I don't have to be a wife and I'm treating myself with a day off so I'm literally just doing nothing and being myself.

E has taken Tae into the city for an Easter Egg Hunt. She was very excited. There's also an Easter Bonnet competition that she has an entry for. I've been feeling like I'm coming down with a cold so have chosen to stay at home. I'll miss taking part in the festivities but at the same time will be thoroughly enjoying some alone time.

I'm curled up on the couch, a steaming mug of cinnamon-y coffee and a plate of grilled cheese for breakfast. I have a book next to me, the newspaper and Kenny Chesney is singing to me. I have a solitaire game loaded up on my computer. I'm wearing my warm onesie and my fluffy slippers.

Peace. Quiet. Alone Time.
Heaven.
rocknrollrodeo: (Booth)
With all the atrocities happening in the world around us, sometimes it's easy to get bogged down in the fear, the anger, the hatred, the uncertainty. To get so lost in others pain. Sometimes it's important to keep things in perspective.

I won’t go to sleep hungry tonight.
I won’t go to sleep outside tonight.
I had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning.
I have access to clean drinking water.
I have access to medical care.
I have access to the Internet.
I am literate and numerate.
I have the right to vote.
I have family who love me

These all seem such simple things but there are people out there who have nothing, who would give everything for just one of those things. I need to take a step back and realise that really, I am blessed.
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The first and most obvious reason why we do things we don’t like is responsibility, and responsibility is quickly followed by necessity. More often than not the obligations and commitments that come with responsibility are not fun or something anyone likes to do, but they are a necessary part of survival. Necessity and responsibility are the foundation for sustainability and growth; if there is no regard for the latter, self preservation and survival are virtually impossible.

In a world where nothing is free or handed to us it takes work to survive. The more effort and time that must go into maintaining survival means less time available to be spent on doing the things we actually enjoy doing.

Almost all of the wonderful things we would prefer to be doing at any given moment cost money. In order to do these things, we must not only be able to afford to do them, but be able to afford the time it takes to do them. Usually that means doing things we would prefer not to do, in exchange for the compensation and freedom required to do the things we want to do.

The system was built around the idea that, for the masses, the cost of living and the cost of doing the things we want to do, will always be greater than the rewards for doing the things we would rather not do. This ever growing disparity ensures most of us will spend the majority of our time consumed by things we would otherwise not do, just to survive. In order to do each and every thing, beyond survival, that we would like to do, it requires us to sacrifice even more time doing undesirable things. This creates a self sustaining cycle that is virtually unbreakable.

It’s easy to see how this cycle can lead to the procrastination of the things we want to do most in life to an undetermined time in a better future. A future where we have already been rewarded for sacrificing our time.

Unfortunately, for most people that day never comes.
rocknrollrodeo: (Booth)
Prince may have said it best, but it’s a sentiment many of us can relate to – Act your age, not your shoe size. Lately, in the rush to proclaim 40 as the new 30 – or even 25 – we’ve noticed a trend of 40 year old women who seem, frankly, afraid to grow up. While the phenomenon is most clearly evident in celebrities whose attire, song lyrics and on-stage movements mimic those of pubescent teens, it’s evident in everyday life as well.

I see it in the cliquey group of friends who brag about who they’re wearing and what they’re driving in the never ending effort to best their own circle of friends. It’s evident in discussions about relationships that sound like they’re being had by naive 16 year olds, not 40 year olds who’ve been around the block a few times. And it’s hinted at in conversations that center around who likes who and who’s not our friend anymore (insert pouted lip visual here.) Life, relationships and our own insecurities are difficult to navigate for sure, but at some point, it really is OK to grow up.

We’re all for working it at 40. There’s something to be said about a woman confident enough to show her curves and strut her stuff on stage and otherwise. But at what age does it become ok to put our intelligence, wisdom and charm on display more than your... other assets? In a society where sex sells, at 40 aren’t we old enough to stop buying?
rocknrollrodeo: (Brothers)
I've always been very fortunate to be confident in myself, in my identity, in knowing who I am, to be able to know what it is that I love. And to not be ashamed or embarassed by it.

I love to learn. It doesn't matter whether it's a class, if I sit in on a lecture, if I read a book or watch a youtube video, or even just watch a quiz show on TV... learn something new every day goes the saying and that's something I fully believe in.

I'm also lucky enough to work in the education field, to work with bright, inquisitive minds that also want to learn. I'm blessed to be able to help guide these young people, to help them find their way and their passion.

I'm one of those frustratingly annoying people (This is what E tells me) who gets up early and jumps out of bed, excited to go to work. I probably put in more hours than the average person, but it's so easy to do because the work day just zooms right by. (And this is why I'm often online at utterly bizarre hours!) I happily lose track of the world and time, losing myself in the task at hand.

Work is not work as many people refer to it, but something that is fun and interesting and exciting. It’s not just a job to me but a passion.

Elia

lots of different words come to my mind to describe myself:

asian american, woman, mother, activist, feminist, student, mentor, reader, writer, late-night-muser, chinese american daughter, east-coast inhabiting.

I am a mama, a blogger, a third generation Chinese American, and a higher education junkie.

I grew up in Acton, MA and after spending time in California, discovered that I am an east coast girl at heart. I dig sunny afternoons at the park, reading, and the night.

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